Sober Secure: An Attachment-Based Guide to Dating, Sex, and Love in Recovery

Description

An attachment-first path to lasting recovery: build the love, safety, and belonging that keep you sober–and help your relationships thrive

Practical, body-based tools for dating, intimacy, and partnership in sobriety

Recovery isn’t just about staying sober–it’s about learning to love and be loved securely. Sober Secure reframes recovery through attachment, giving people in sobriety the practical tools to heal early relational wounds, regulate the nervous system, and create the connections that sustain a joyful, durable recovery.

Nina Pick, MA, integrative somatic counselor and author of The Mind-Body Guide to the Twelve Steps, draws on attachment science, polyvagal theory, and somatic therapy while honoring the strengths of Twelve Step communities. She offers vivid examples in clear language and step-by-step practices for navigating intimacy, conflict, and repair on Twelve Step and other recovery paths.

You’ll learn to:

• Spot your attachment patterns and move toward earned secure attachment in recovery
• Heal childhood and intergenerational attachment trauma
• Regulate your nervous system with simple somatic tools that make connection feel safer
• Trade isolating self-reliance for healthy interdependence without losing your agency
• Date with pacing and clarity; cultivate pleasure and passion; and deepen partnership
• Transform the chronic shame and “not-enough” beliefs that fuel isolation and relapse risk

Warm, accessible, and immediately useful, Sober Secure is a loving companion for building the safety, belonging, and embodied presence that let your sobriety–and your life–fully bloom.
Binding Type: Paperback
Author: Nina Pick
Published: 08/11/2026
Publisher: North Atlantic Books
ISBN: 9798889843740
Pages: 288
Weight: 0.78lbs
Size: 0.82″ H x 9.03″ L x 6.07″ W

About the Author
Nina Pick is an integrative somatic counselor and certified NeuroAffective Touch practitioner focused on helping individuals with early relational wounds live full, embodied, and connected lives. In recovery since 2009, her books include The Mind-Body Guide to the Twelve Steps: Finding Joy, Sensuality, and Pleasure in Recovery and Tall Oak and Small Owl, a book for young children about secure attachment.

She received an MA in counseling psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy from Pacifica Graduate Institute and an MA in comparative literature from UC Berkeley, and has certifications in a range of modalities, including Somatic Attachment Therapy, Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy, the Safe and Sound Protocol, the Havening Techniques, and Reiki. In private practice in Western Massachusetts, she also facilitates groups on somatics and recovery at Commonwealth Collaborative and is a fellow with the Yiddish Book Center’s Wexler Oral History Project.