Description
Someone asks how you’re doing. You say “fine.” You’ve been saying it for decades – efficient, automatic, and almost entirely untrue.
I’m Not Fine. Thanks for Asking. is the research-backed, unapologetically honest guide to middle age that women are taught to dread – the one research says might actually be the best of your life. The U-curve of life satisfaction bottoms out in the early forties and rises substantially after that, across cultures and income levels. Life coach Rachael Gass and Be Kind Lyfe founder Andie Herbert pair that science with the unfiltered, sometimes very funny truth of two women living every bit of it.
Inside, you’ll find:
– The real research on why midlife brains aren’t declining – they’re better at emotional regulation and richer in the kind of wisdom that only comes from living.
– Honest chapters on perimenopause, caregiving for aging parents, career reinvention, motherhood and identity, friendship after forty, and the beauty standards designed to make you feel like you’re disappearing.
– Six women – composites drawn from a decade of real coaching conversations – whose stories make the research land in your body, not just your head.
– Zero toxic positivity. No gratitude journaling as a cure-all. Just evidence, humor, and permission to stop performing “fine.”
This book is for you if:
– You’re in your forties, fifties, or sixties and suspect there’s more available to you than you’ve had time to notice.
– You’re exhausted by the performance of having it all together.
– You want real information about your body, your relationships, and your sense of self – not platitudes.
– You’re tired of self-help that assumes your life looks like everyone else’s.
You don’t have to be fine. You don’t have to perform fine. And with this book, you don’t have to figure any of it out alone.
Reserve your digital copy today for $0.99 – the price goes up to regular pricing on release day, September 15.
With kindness and absolutely zero judgment,
Rachael & Andie
Binding Type: Paperback
Contributors: Rachael Gass,Andie Herbert (Author)
Published: 08/18/2026
Publisher: Be Kind Lyfe
ISBN: 9798234163301
Pages: 248
Weight: 0.55lbs
Size: 0.52″ H x 8.00″ L x 5.00″ W
About the Author
Gass, Rachael: – “Rachael Gass, PCC, MS, is a Professional Certified Coach who has spent the past decade helping women navigate the biggest transitions of their lives: career reinvention, caregiving, perimenopause, and the identity shifts nobody warns you about. She holds a master’s in organizational psychology and a B.A. in Marketing from Arizona State University. She’s also an executive coach and Managing Partner of Be Kind Lyfe, where she and co-founder Andie Herbert help organizations build genuinely kind – not just nice – workplace cultures. In this book, she brings that same honesty to the page: real, unfiltered stories about hormones, hard conversations, disappearing into motherhood, and finding her way back out.”Herbert, Andie: – Andie Herbert has lived through nearly every transition this book covers: a career change, caregiving for a parent with dementia, a cross-culturalrelocation to a homestead in the Caribbean, and singlehood by design.She brings over two decades of corporate experience to the page, plus avoice that’s hard-won, unsentimental, and genuinely funny.She’s also the founder of Be Kind Lyfe, a company that teachesindividuals and organizations to be kinder to themselves and each other.But in this book, she’s not consulting anyone. She’s telling the truth aboutwhat forty and beyond actually looks like: no performance, no polish.
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